Cocoa Pods

Dr Cynthia Cohn continues her discussion on couples fighting. When you say, 'I'm sorry for…' what are you sorry for? At times, people want to say a quick "I'm sorry" yet they are still hurt. What is the best way to apologize? Dr Cohn talks about a general rule for how to apologize to a partner, and how important it is to listen and be curious about your partner’s perspective. For couples who are prone to engage in high-conflict arguments and the “not-so-sweet nothings’ mutterings, a plan to take a time-out is important to implement. In general, couples do better when they talk through their differences to find as much understanding of each other as possible, perhaps by returning to the issue post-conflict after they have had some time to reflect. This does not always mean resolution though. Sometimes it just means exploring more deeply their differences/learning to accept, respect their disagreement or disappointment in each other on certain things. In discussing make-up intimacy, Dr. Cynthia Cohn explains how to find intimacy in connections other than sexual. How can individual therapy rather than couple therapy help? In closing, good therapy can transform - lead to feeling more alive, being true to yourself, capable of alleviating suffering, challenging old patterns of thinking/relating/behavior behind your distress, finding new perspective and achieving one’s goals. She gives pointers as to how to reach a psychologist for consultative relationship help and does not leave out older couples; they should not be forgotten as there is still time to make progress. #therapy #make-upintimacy, #not-so-sweetnothings,# high-conflictarguments #apologize #individualtherapy #conflictresolution